Leads To An Ongoing Cycle Of Abuse
And it doesn’t stop when the child becomes an adult. The violent behavior of children who have experienced corporal punishment [or physical force] persists into adulthood, according to Gershoff. Because the violent act has been ingrained in the child’s mind, they now “consider [physical force as] a normal and inevitable experience of childhood.”
But, in today’s world, you don’t need to resort to violence to teach your child a lesson.
There are better alternatives that focus on child development.
Have An Open Communication
Learn the reason your child chooses to perform the unwanted behavior. In return, explain to them, in calm manner, what makes the behavior unwanted. Increasing the child’s capacity to put words to feelings and actions results in increased tension regulation, self-awareness, and thoughtful decision-making.
This method allows them to be in a better position to overcome challenges and build stronger relationships as teenagers and eventually as adults.
Take Away Privileges
Take away their privileges. These are privileges that they feel like they can’t live without. For young children, it could be playtime, TV time, or maybe an upcoming date to his favorite place. Be sure to give them a time frame, 24 hours usually works. And remind them that their privilege could be returned to them if they do what is being asked of them.
